update from the dark.

Oh hey, there. I know. It’s been quiet around here. Here’s why.

One week ago, I read this disturbing article about how the Internet — social media in particular — is making us crazy. It really freaked me out. It gave me so much anxiety that I couldn’t sleep.

So I decided to go on an indefinite social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) fast. Not just a “fast”, either. Like I legitimately deleted the apps from my iPhone and EVERYTHING. (Crazy, right? My smart phone is pretty dumb at this point. Unless you give some cred to the Uno app which, by the way, is super duper and I’m so glad I spent 99 cents on it!)

It’s not that Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are inherently bad, perse. That’s not what I’m saying and I don’t think that’s what the article is saying. But it did raise a lot of harrowing truths about our society’s obsession with and actual addiction to these sites and the Internet as a whole.

I’ve been on this “cleanse” for about a week and already I see how I was basically tethered to social media. So many times in the first 24 hours of this fast I found myself mindlessly reaching for my phone, unlocking the screen… only to come to and realize that — oh yeah — I have nothing to look at. I “tried” to tweet FOUR TIMES while I was at the farmers market with my son. Four. Times.

Yikes. What in the name of all things holy would I need to tweet at 9am on a Saturday outing with my baby? That the carrots look extra orange today? The yellow squash is just a tad squishy for my taste? That the Maya Wrap is still ruling our world at 8 months? That there is a Girl Scout cookie booth set up for the first time? (Okay, that one almost deserved a tweet. Also I did buy Thin Mints and Trefoils, obviously.)

It’s been quite the sobering experience. But also liberating. I feel like I’m finally back in touch with reality.

That said, this week has been one full of things that are actually kind of social media worthy. So, without further ado:


1. my son’s milestones.

Well, this week was fit for the baby book, y’all.

  • FIRST WORD. Yep, this is a biggie. Dax said his first word just hours after I went on my social sabbatical. Of course. His first word was “dada” and everything is dada right now. Dada is dada, of course. But I am also dada. Also the pacifier. Also food. Also you. Yes, you reading this. You are dada, no paternity test required.
  • We are fitting him for his first suit! He’s the ring bearer in my cousin’s wedding next week. You guys. Wait until you see. You will pass out from the cuteness.
  • FOURTH TOOTH. There are four little chompers in that mouth now. In case you are wondering, we are still breastfeeding like champs and he doesn’t bite. * phew *
  • EIGHT MONTHS OLD. Ack. Time. Where are you going?!

8 months

2. i got straight bangs. 

Y’all. I haven’t had bangs like this since I was SEVEN. That is literally TWENTY YEARS AGO. Yikes. Anyway, my normal stylist is on maternity leave for another month but I had some serious roots showing and am in a wedding next week. So I saw my other friend and let her run wild on my head, which meant straight bangs and ombre color. Here is the before/after photo.


3. we’ve got some prospects.

We’ve been doing a lot of interviewing in central (and even south?) Florida, so I think we might not actually be homeless at the end of April. Hooray!

4. i’m learning photography.

I’m taking an online photography certification course which is, eh, okay I guess. Not because I want to be a professional photographer by any means but because I have a kick-butt DSLR that I’ve been treating like a point-and-shoot and I’m just over it. The whole point of me shelling out the cash for a DSLR was so I could take good pictures of my baby and not fork over money to legit photographers. Sorry for the honesty, y’all but we broke folks GOTTA BRING THE HUSTLE.

So. What’s the biggest thing I’ve learned from this photography class?

It’s freaking hard, okay. So much more difficult than just having a nice camera. Pat a photographer on the back next time you see one. Respect.

Alright, so, now you’re caught up! Back to your regularly scheduled Internet addiction.

15 thoughts on “update from the dark.

  1. You seem serene and happy! Hooray for the “dark”…
    Your bangs ROCK, I love them!!
    I love that Dax calls everyone “dada” …you thought every animal was a “kitty” and said “meow” including the owl painting on the wall at the pediatrician’s office. You had everyone on stitches. LOL

    • oh yeah, social media is a huge part of my job, too, which is why i deleted the apps from my phone. i’ve been in the “dark” as far as personal social media goes. 🙂

  2. fortunately i am not dependent on social media for my life (this may change when my business is taken over by someone else) – but i choose not to tweet, facebook… and i would prefer to be hung upside down by my toenails before i go on an online dating site again (long story – i may blog about it but doubt it). i am okay with all of this. but i do understand that life does go on and progress should be made – i will hold back a little while longer. (god knows what will happen when my oldest goes away to college in the fall) btw – the bangs look great:)

    • Do tell about the online dating site. I am currently trying one out and need to know what I’m getting into. Thanks! If you’d rather not post it on here, you can tell me via email thru Lins (if you really don’t want to share, I understand!).
      ~Lindsay’s mom

      • Hi –

        I do not minding telling at all and, honestly, it is not anything bad. To sum up what I feel about the internet dating sites is this – a kid in a candy store. Too much to choose from and though there are people who discover ‘their mate’, many find something, but still feel inclined to keep looking – even while they have found what they believe they are looking for. Understand what i am saying? The internet is like a 24 hour store for window shopping,……It never closes. So, yes, one can still say that the traditional way of dating is the same thing, but, really it is not. PLUS – you never know who is real, truthful….. So there you have it. As I said, I know some people who believe this is the way to go and I think that is great. For me, no thanks. I cannot trust them. 🙂

  3. Everything about your new hairdo is amazing! If you want something else to read while you’re avoiding screen time, try the book ‘The Shallows.’ I think, as with anything, we have to be masters of our own behavior–sometimes I actually make a list of the things I need to do online (check email, look at the price of queen-sized sheets, read the article Hubby sent) and after I’ve done those I SHUT ‘ER DOWN. It helps.

    • agreed! i think the biggest problem was feeling like i wasn’t in control. like i HAD to check facebook or twitter or instagram at regular intervals or else life “wasn’t” happening. yikes!

      thanks for the book recommendation!

  4. words4jp….thank you. I’ve already run into a couple guys who are older than they say they are. I thought only women were sensitive about their age. Ha! I guess they don’t know a computer savvy gal with a credit card can find out everything about them. And I totally relate to your concern about it being too much to choose from, I am on “man overload” here. I’ve gone from not much choice to way too many choices. Yikes LOL
    Have a blessed day!
    Lins’ mom

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