Next April, I get to be a bridesmaid for the first time for my friend Chrissie! I’m really excited!
One of the most fun things about being a bridesmaid is accompanying the bride to try on wedding gowns. I had the best time doing that when I was a bride (except for a minor snafu at David’s Bridal that resulted in a tearful breakdown, whatever…) and going along with Chrissie has proven to be as fun as I imagined it would be.
[This post inspired me to put my wedding gown back on and have fun in front of a camera.]
Last weekend, Chrissie, myself, and a few other bridesmaids/friends were going to go on our second dress shopping trip. Beforehand, Chrissie and I met up and had lunch at another bridesmaid Chelsea’s house with TLC’s Say Yes to the Dress on in the background. It seemed appropriate and, let me tell you, that show is mesmerizing. I’ve been known to silently waste away on my couch as a slave to SYTTD marathons. (Can you ingest crack via cathode tube rays?) However, sadly, my husband and I really can’t afford cable right now so we have been forced to downgrade to the least expensive package until our contract expires in September. Therefore, I haven’t had TLC or seen an episode of SYTTD in ages.
While I was slicing up strawberries to put in our champagne glasses (I know, I’m a classy gal) Chrissie and Chelsea started talking about a spin-off of SYTTD called, Say Yes to the Dress: Big Bliss. (Now, I may be late to the party on this, but remember, I haven’t had TLC in months.) Naturally, my ears perked up and I demanded to hear more about this.
According to Chrissie and Chelsea, SYTTDBB (I am LOVING these abbreviations!) is essentially the same as the original show, but the women featured are plus sized. My first reaction upon hearing this was nowhere close to big bliss. I was angry. In a big way.
BUT, I didn’t want to get all huffy and puffy about something I’ve never even seen before. That’s not fair to TLC. So I consulted the YouTubes on the Interwebs and watched some promos and short clips of SYTTDBB.
Take a look:
Okay, yep. I’m not happy about this for several reasons.
- The title itself brings ridicule upon those it features. Unfortunately, the word “big” is not one that society has allowed to be a positive (or neutral, even) adjective associated with women. In a culture that demands that women need to shrink down to almost nothing in order to be acceptable and beautiful, the title “Big Bliss” implies that these women are outsiders. Awww, how sweet. Outsiders can get married, too. (Seethe.)
- This means that on the original SYTTD, producers and other higher-ups had consciously decided that they never want to feature any girls who are plus sized. I can’t believe I never realized this before, despite my failure to pry myself away from marathons. [Edit: A bunch of my super-smart readers have informed me that plus-sized brides have been featured on the regular show. But I must ask — was their size ever mentioned? Was it ever pointed out? This is your next assignment, readers. Fill me in.]
- The issue of their weight is designed to be an integral part of the show. In the interviews, the girls talk about their weight and how comfortable or uncomfortable they are trying on wedding dresses, and I can only imagine it’s because the interviewers are bringing this subject up. This further perpetuates the idea that they should feel uncomfortable in wedding gowns simply because they’re overweight. (Seethe again.)
Nice try, TLC. I bet you thought that by broadcasting a show that features plus sized women that you were doing them a favor. But as a woman toeing the plus sized line, I’m nothing short of completely offended.
7 thoughts on “big anger.”
Love it Linds. So true! You made some really great observations… and look fabulous in your new wedding dress pictures. 🙂
Does TLC have a twitter you could link the article to?
aww thanks girl! you know, i don’t know! i haven’t looked into it! hmmm… maybe i should…
THANK YOU! While I am not plus-sized, my initial reaction to the show was exactly the same! And, to be fair, some plus-sized women were included in the original show (however, their weight may or may not have been a direct issue, most likely based on their desire to talk about it rather than producers). I just don’t understand why they can’t have one show that follows all types (age, size, race, sexual orientation, etc) of women as they look for a wedding dress. Why do they need to be segmented off? So really, thank you for voicing exactly what I was thinking.
And I love that you wore your wedding dress again for some “just for fun” photos 🙂
Thanks for letting me know that they included plus size ladies in the show! I appreciate that!
I don’t think your second reason isn’t valid, I’ve seen plus sized, and some very buxom women on the regular SYTTD seasons. I do agree with you that seperating plus-sized women to their own show is a horrible thing to do. They cater to women of all heights, why not widths?
Yeah evidently I just haven’t seen those episodes (need to work on being a better couch potato!) but I will definitely look out for them!
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