How sad is this? I know I have a much longer list but, because I haven’t Instagrammed anything, I can’t really remember what I’ve been up to. Ooof.
Okay. Point 1 for Instagram. (I also don’t have a picture to put on this post either. Drat. Point 2.)
Here we go!
THINGS THAT MADE ME SMILE RECENTLY:
- Serendipitous lunches with old friends and new.
- Quoting “Clueless” in a job interview and actually having it go over well.
- Music. Always music. Playing it, listening to it, living in a world in which it exists.
- Seeing my little boy in an adorable baby-sized suit.
- Reading “emerged” as “ermahgerd”.
- Also getting lots of “ermahgerd” texts from several different people.
- Video chats.
- Road trips and the terrible food you eat on road trips.
- Visiting one of my best friends, Becky!
- Finally meeting cranky Dobby and watching him curl up into a ball! (He’s a hedgehog.)
- New hair!
- Playing games with a youth group again.
- Hearing that a particular person wants to get baptized. By my husband.
- Fanta and Coke in glass bottles.
- Stuffed duckies and new pacifiers.
- Taking my little man out for special outings all by ourselves.
- Surprise babysitters.
- Playing a real piano.
- Debates over worship songs being good or not. (“Revelation Song” is terrible. I don’t care what you say. I stand by it.)
- Playing “dropsies” in Starbucks.
- Watching Dax flirt with basically everyone.
- Cubicle dance parties — in front of the giant windows.
- Soy lattes.
- Smoothie lunch dates.
- The Uno app.
- Morning snuggles.
- Gearing up for my cousin’s wedding!
What do you love this week?
Oh, snap. A WTLB by a good friend.
I want to release this ridiculous notion that to be a successful feminist – or woman – or pastor – or friend – I must fix what is broken. I want my first response to be respect, born of love and listening and honor of every person’s journey. Learn to live in the midst of the mess. See the beauty in the broken…
Embrace the mess, friends. Only in the midst of brokenness can we find true healing. I can say that because I’ve seen it.
Have a messy weekend.
Happy 30th birthday, Taylor Hanson! My gift to you is a THINGS I LOVE THURSDAY list that has nothing to do with me being married to your little brother and mothering a thousand little Hansons myself.
THINGS THAT MADE ME SMILE THIS WEEK:
- Making music with my friends, even when temperamental sound systems make it a wee bit difficult.
- Having friends over for beers and creative brainstorming sessions.
- Dax’s first play date in the park with Oliver!
- Hearing him giggle on the swings.
- Dancing in the kitchen. You know. BY MYSELF.
- Long afternoon naps (for both me and the boy).
- Getting my husband back after his weekend youth retreat.
- Seeing pictures and videos from said retreat.
- Video chatting Brian and Katie and going over their wedding (eep!) which Dan is officiating in T MINUS SIXTEEN DAYS!
- Eating out.
- But also eating in.
- Raspberry beer!
- Getting a text from a friend saying he ordered me business cards BECAUSE…
- … all I do is win.
- Working from home with my little man.
- My last counseling appointment.
- Chocolate glazed donut flavored coffee. #zomg
- Bringing my man soup to make him feel better.
- INBOX ZERO!
- Encouraging fellow moms.
- Top Model.
- Lunch with Shana (and RICK)!
- The way Dan makes Dax giggle.
- Prospects for the future.
- Wedding planning with the bestie.
- Taking in the sweet sights and sounds of this town before it is mine no longer.
What do you love this week? (Side note: teenage me is crying alone in her room right now because she has a feeling she doesn’t end up with Zac Hanson in the end but HEY — this is way better.)
I just left my last counseling appointment.
Mind you, this is only my last counseling appointment in this season of life with this particular counselor. My counseling journey isn’t over, by any means. But for now, as of 5PM today, this chapter of my journey has come to a close.
So. What did I glean from the past few months of counseling? A couple things. Let me share them with you! Sharing is caring, after all… especially when mental health is at stake.
1. I am not broken.
I’ve written about this before, but it deserves a second mention because it is so important. A lot of people associate counseling or therapy with the notion that you are in need of “fixing”. Sometimes, I guess that could be the case. But for me, it isn’t. And hasn’t been. I am not broken. I just need help processing things in a constructive and objective way.
2. I’m pretty well adjusted even though, by all accounts, I shouldn’t be.
According to my counselor, my upbringing should have yielded me a permanent residence within an insane asylum with my very own padded room and straight-jacket wardrobe. However, in the words of Dr. Maki, I’m “really put together”. Holla at your healthy boo.
3. Being open and honest about what struggles I have has been a huge asset.
I’ve said it a hundred times and I’ll say it again — no one, including you, benefits from you hiding your hurts. Opening up about the things I’ve dealt with, to not only counselors but also mentors and friends, has been more effective in my growth and health than anything else. And yes, that includes medicinal treatment.
So. I’ll say it again. If you are considering counseling but are afraid of any stigmas attached, take it from me: do it. See a counselor. Invite an unbiased professional into your life to help walk you through what you’re going through. See how it changes you for the better!
Have you ever gone to see a counselor? How did it work out for you?
From her phenomenal book, Bossypants.
If you retain nothing else, always remember the most important rule of beauty which is: who cares?
– Tina Fey